04 Mar Getting Unstuck
6 reasons you’re stuck and how to pull yourself out of that hole.
1. You have limiting beliefs – It’s amazing how powerful your mind is. Believe it or not, but a belief from childhood can hold you back from great success as an adult. Lisa will help you identify and clear those limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in the mire.
2.You lack confidence – We all suffer from lack of confidence at some point in our lives. Many of us fake it until we make it. Being perfect is not realistic, but doing the best you can is. I remember watching the movie Iron Lady starring Meryl Streep playing Margaret Thatcher. Margaret actually never intended on actually getting elected, she just wanted to make a point. She suddenly found herself Prime Minister and having no idea what she was doing. She learned on the job and never let on how frightened she was.
3.You fear a loss of control and yet the only thing we really have control over is how we react to something. You can’t control what happens, but you do have control of how you react to something. Believe it or not, a situation that appears to cause you great pain can suddenly become a gift, it’s all in your perspective.
Maybe (Taoist story)
There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.
“Maybe,” the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.
“Maybe,” replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “Maybe,” answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “Maybe,” said the farmer.
4.You experience analysis/paralysis. This is the inability to make a decision. This could be a small or large decision. The paralysis part refers to our thinking too much about a situation or problem. It is due to our need for control so we try to predict certainty. Procrastination creates a state of complete inertia where we do nothing and are unable to act. Doing nothing is worse than doing something. If you think yourself through to the worst-case scenario, it is never as bad as you think it could be. Over analysis is an addiction. Learn to stay in the present moment, inform yourself as much as you can and create an arbitrary deadline. No decision is ever completely perfect. Few decisions are final and most can be adjusted over time.
5.You have a fear of failure which can be similar to analysis/paralysis. What is the price of inaction? Failure. Just start out and fake if until you make it. Visualize success. Set goals that you work on every day and keep leaning forward. Having Lisa as your coach, cheering you along can make the difference between success and failure.
6.You compare yourself to others. There will always be someone who has more money, greater success, a bigger home, is better looking, and the list goes on. Comparison often creates resentment towards others and towards ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy. There is no one in this world who has the same talents you do. You are uniquely you and there will never be another you. Don’t waste your talent.